the worse thing that can happen to anybody b4 or during important examinations is to be SICK la... wah lao. i think im really sick beyond repair le budden nvm... "i will be strong and i will be faithful cos im counting on a new beginning"

Friendship

Many times people/I/u/she/him/her/he have wondered about friends and friendship, a sensitive yet openly-discussed issue. Friendship is totally different from other forms of relationships in that friends are always thought of as the joyous, freely chosen part of our lives, and it's assumed that those relationships are always pleasurable.

"On one level, friendships are very simple. They are the bonds between people who enjoy one another's company. But probe deeper and it's evident that there is no consensus about what it means. Start talking to people about friendship and it becomes clear that while people value it and seek it, there is also much confusion, hesitancy and disappointment about friends in many people's lives. Friendship is one of those areas full of hidden assumptions and unspoken rules. We only discover that our friendship doesn't mean what we think it does when those assumptions clash.

Ask people about friendship and what's startling is that they hold such a wide range of views, often accompanied by an absolute conviction that they are expressing an obvious truth. Some think it demands total loyalty; others that it carries no obligations at all.

Most of us feel a certain pride about our friends, pleased that they have chosen us, and that we have chosen them. We tend to believe that they reflect some important truths about who we are. Yet making friends isn't an exercise in free choice, any more than buying a house is. We buy houses according to what we can afford, what happens to be on the market when we're looking, and whether a capricious owner decides to accept our offer. Friendship is rather similar. We can only choose our friends from among the people we meet, in circumstances where making a friendly overture would be appropriate, and who show a reciprocal interest in knowing us." There are ppl I wanna make friends with but i just don't know how due to circumstance

It's noticeable that the people who are least disappointed with their friendships are either those who have never tested them, or those with the clearest understanding of what they are about. Yet there are times where i believe friendship has been tested out yet still remain friends. What does this mean? What about friendship that have been tested and I and that person never remained friends at all? What does it signify? I am not a good friend? But I believe that after a friendship has been tested will it be a true friendship. Friendships that have been tested and turned sour is only superficial and untrue. But how do you really test friendship? You can't really use any indicators like litmus paper or stuff... it's so profound.

Perhaps we need to think a little harder, and be rather more perceptive, about what sustains our relationships. We could start by being more honest with ourselves about what we like about our friends, what needs they fulfil, and what we would be prepared to do for them. We may feel truly generous to some of our friends, and resentful of others. Some we love, some flatter us, some we tolerate while they serve a purpose, and some we might despise. Does it matter that we can distinguish between deep friendships and transient or superficial ones?

It isn't easy, because friendship is a subtle dance, and no one wants to be explicitly pursued when it's unwelcome, or explicitly dropped when they are not wanted. Nor does it come with any guarantees. People are unpredictable. But we need to play the game of friendship. Evidence shows that people with close friends live longer and are happier than those without. And friendship defines what it means to be human. As the Greek philosopher Epicurus observed: "Of all the things that wisdom provides to help one live one's life in happiness, the greatest by far is the possession of friendship. Eating or drinking without a friend is the life of a lion or a wolf."

Cherish